Mum guilt

Mum entrepreneurs, this message is for you.

I get it. You’re tired, overworked & overwhelmed most of the time. There never seems to be enough time in the day and the mum guilt is a heavy burden to carry.

I’ve struggled with mum guilt ever since I’ve been a mum. I get the guilt when you’re rushing the bedtime routine because you’ve got emails you’ve got to answer. Your workload feels like multiple full-time jobs and you have humans to raise and be present with.

I’ve desired the life of just being a mum before. Dropping my hustles and living the normal matrix lifestyle of the 9-5 and ‘living for the weekend’. But I just can’t. I can’t just give up and choose to fail.

I’ve got this drive in me to show my kids what is possible. I want them to know they can be anyone they decide to be. I want them to know that every day is a gift. I want to teach them the importance of living in the moment.

I don’t want to limit them to the idea that you grow up and get a safe job that they hate and live their lives at the weekend. I want them to follow those big dreams that are ever-evolving. I want them to commit themselves to their goals. I want them to create an INTENTIONAL reality. I don’t want them to just coast along with the motions of life and shelf their dreams in the ‘one-day’ section.

I heard on a podcast the other day that a mum asked her daughter if she wanted kids when she was older. The young girl said, “no mummy I will have to give up on my dreams then”. The mum was shocked and realised that was the belief she had created for her daughter. She had shelved her career and goals during the time her kids were growing up. At that moment she realised that she needed to pursue her dreams to show her children what’s possible. She can be a mum and still pursue her goals as her own person. They both can work in harmony together.

Our belief system is made up of previous experiences. A vast majority of our belief system is made up of childhood experiences. These become reinforced the more that new situations reaffirm that belief.

If you want your kids to believe that their dreams are theirs for the taking, you have to show them.

Kids will do what we do, rather than what we say. We are an example to our children, and they are watching! What’s possible for you, is more than possible for them. It created that belief in their minds and the more you do it, the more it reaffirms and strengthens the belief.

I may be busy sometimes and the mum guilt sets in, but I remind myself I’m doing it for them. I’m doing it for them to have a better life and I’m doing it to show them that their dreams are possible. They became my why and it’s too strong of a why to give up when the going gets tough.

Mum guilt is a sign that you are an amazing mum. You care and want to always do better. Slow down, organise your time more efficiently, freelance jobs out that you can and relax. Self-care is THE most beneficial thing you can do for yourself and your kids when you’re overwhelmed or stressed.

You’re doing good. You’ve got this 💪

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